I heard someone once say:"Most of our miseries spring from human malice."
It got me thinking about something that had happened to people I know not so long ago...
It is so true, when people hurt each other, evil springs out and hatred prevails. The fact is:
People can hurt. With words they say, actions they do, and thoughts they have. What they would be forgetting is that they themselves are
full of imperfections and sins.
I always thought, how come a person is more loved than another...How come some people are able to gain respect more than others...I came to accept that when someone is doing someone else harm, he or she might not even be aware of it, and thus when that other person reacts, the first party thinks that the second was the one to initiate malice not the other way round. Since he is initially unaware of what he has done in the first place. The emotionally intelligent person knows this and acts accordingly. He never judges. Full stop.
He would be so knowledgeable and smart enough to grasp that he himself has been on the other side once and might even still be there, but simply not aware what harm he's doing onto someone else.
If someone wants to understand others around him, he needs to look into his own heart and identify his own imperfections and weaknesses. This way, he can never blame others for anything they do. And instead of judging them, he can give them excuses, extend his arms to them and actually be able to help them.
When you blame or judge repeatedly, you are putting a lot of effort on something that you tend to lose your essential aim. You just criticize. Anything , anyone, anytime...until you are left all alone, with no one else to hold accountable anymore except yourself. Remember, people will listen to you if they are actually near you, if you keep pushing them away, they cannot and will not give you their attention. If a wise man thinks he might survive without people, he is living a big lie. He knows that all his knowledge and prudence are worthless if there's no one to benefit from it.
One must tune his heart right, and then set the rest of the people and the world. Cultivate one's life, by planting positive seeds, by placing our families first, by placing our community first, by following the hiarchy of nature. The prophet PBUH said "Khayrukom, khayrokom li ahleh." If someone is mean to his wife or his mother or his sister...How can anyone expect any good to come out of him. He must begin with the closest to him, then spread out his charity around...
And the very first person one should not deceive, is himself. The worst thing to do will be falling into the trap of creating an illusion, like the hypocrite, and then believing in it.
Attitude!! This is what is key to everything. So my dear friends choose your attitudes wisely.
Thank your for indulging in my thoughts. I just wanted to share this with all my friends and beloved ones.
